How a Fullerton Family Used Power of Attorney to Fund a Parent's In-Home Care
With a durable power of attorney already in place, an adult daughter completed a reverse mortgage to fund part-time in-home care so her mother could stay home.
An adult daughter in Fullerton had watched her mother grow more forgetful over a couple of years — missing appointments, repeating questions, and eventually receiving an early-stage memory diagnosis. Her mother had lived in the same home for decades and wanted to stay there, but she now needed part-time help to do so safely. Years earlier, while her mother was healthy, the family had done something that turned out to matter enormously: they had set up a living trust and a durable power of attorney.
The challenge
In-home care is an ongoing cost, and her mother's fixed income could not cover several caregiver visits a week. The home held substantial equity, but tapping it now raised a hard question — her mother's memory had declined to the point that signing complex paperwork on her own was no longer realistic. Many families in this exact spot discover too late that, without the right documents, their hands are tied.
The approach
Because the daughter already held a valid durable power of attorney — signed while her mother still had full capacity — she was able to act on her mother's behalf. After the family completed the required independent HUD counseling, they used a Home Equity Conversion Mortgage (HECM) to convert part of the home's equity into funds for care, and the home's living trust was reviewed to confirm it met the program's requirements.
The outcome
The reverse mortgage funded part-time in-home caregiving, allowing her mother to remain in the home she loved instead of moving to a facility. Just as importantly, the family avoided the slow, costly court conservatorship that often becomes the only option when no power of attorney exists.
Key results
- Completed the loan using a durable power of attorney already in place
- Funded part-time in-home care with no required monthly mortgage payment
- Mother remained in her longtime home
- Avoided a court-appointed conservatorship
Frequently asked questions
Can an adult child complete a reverse mortgage for a parent?
It is possible when the child holds a valid durable power of attorney that authorizes real-estate and financial transactions and was signed while the parent still had capacity. The lender and title company review the document carefully. Without such a document, completing the loan after a parent loses capacity is very difficult.
What if no power of attorney had been in place?
If the mother had already lost the capacity to sign and no durable power of attorney existed, the reverse mortgage generally could not have been completed. The family would likely have needed a court-appointed conservatorship — a slow and costly process — or would have had to set the reverse mortgage aside entirely.
Can reverse mortgage funds be used to pay for in-home care?
Yes. The funds are yours to use, including for caregiving and medical needs. Keep in mind the loan becomes due if the borrower moves out of the home for more than 12 consecutive months, such as into long-term care.